Dear all,
Oh my. Busy again, I was.
Thank you for your comments on my last post. You need never worry about giving me what they call "assvice". You are too kind and experienced to be judgemental or miss the point. If any advice did not seem relevant, I would just put it aside for another situation which it might fit. So that is all good.
While it is true that I suffer at times from what my lovely American flatmate used to call Big Picture Disease (taking the long view to the point where it becomes hard to have an appropriate response in the moment), a marriage is a long, awful, beautiful stream of experience, where you run into all kinds of unexpected limitations - many of which you have to recognise as your own. You know how it is. So, as you can imagine, the JB and I have had every kind of conversation about our future, from the tearful to the comic. Our style is fairly frank when we argue, but that is only a tiny percent of the time. The rest is really good and the last week or two have been in that mode. We're fine, at least for the moment.
ANYWAY. This was just to let you know I am aok, and not living in a damp bedsit in Mountjoy Sq with an angry cat pissing on my single bed. In fact, I am off to a spa tonight, no less. Oh yes, it's a high-octane, devil-may-care life I lead, you know!
Talk soon.
xx
T
Oooh lovely spa, because you are worth it, and a spa going wife is a much happier beast than a sparring wife.
Posted by: Womb For Improvement | November 23, 2011 at 03:05 PM
Big Picture Disease: I am a fellow sufferer. A support group is what we need! Glad the two weeks have been sunnier - in thought if not in actual weather. Frank is good. Terrible sometimes, but better than false smiles in that stream of experience you reference.
Enjoy the spa experience. Your readership demands pictorial representations. Or, at least, more P-kit.
Posted by: Adele | November 23, 2011 at 03:10 PM
Ah... spas... involuntary sigh...
Posted by: Dr Spouse | November 23, 2011 at 03:20 PM
Oooo! Spa-ness! Lovely!
Posted by: Hairy Farmer Family | November 23, 2011 at 04:35 PM
Oh my - I think this is the most tactful response I have ever heard:
"If any advice did not seem relevant, I would just put it aside for another situation which it might fit."
Could you give me tact lessons? I don't have any at all.
Enjoy your spa!
Posted by: a | November 23, 2011 at 04:48 PM
The SPA! Well done. Just what the doctor ordered. Take me with you? :)
Mwah! Mwah!
Posted by: Pale | November 23, 2011 at 09:18 PM
Did you survive the spa? Did it suck away your creative juice? Hope not!....
(I know, generally no news is good news, but, well, ehm, yes) I'll be quiet now. And quietly hope all is well.
And send stampy vibes to the non-stampy people.
Posted by: Valery Valentina | December 08, 2011 at 10:02 AM
Val! Sorry! Yes, and no. Updating now...
Posted by: Twangypearl | December 10, 2011 at 04:54 PM